Urooj's Penchants

I was heartbroken because someone very close to my heart hurt me deeply. This Eid, I felt particularly down and despondent. I woke up early for breakfast, but after eating, I went back to bed and stayed there all day. I didn’t even change my clothes. I ignored my phone, not sending any Eid Mubarak messages to friends or family. My phone sat untouched on the bedside table. In the evening, my mother brought me a cup of tea. As I sipped it, I started to hope that when I turned on my mobile data, I would find messages from friends and loved ones. I believed that perhaps those who had hurt me would reach out, feeling remorseful for their actions. However, when I finally turned on my data, I was deeply disappointed—there were no messages. It became clear that nobody was waiting for me. It was only me who cared so deeply about others, while my sadness went unnoticed. That day, I realized an important lesson: never waste your time on someone who doesn’t give you a place in their life. Don’t le...

We humans are blessed with the ability to express our emotions and thoughts. However, it can be challenging to remain patient, especially in times of trouble or pain. For example, when we experience physical pain, we can describe the event and the pain we felt. I remember the day I cut my finger; the pain was so intense that I couldn't bear it, and I started shouting. Now, imagine being an animal, wandering aimlessly without direction, only to stumble into a place where someone, a human, decides to be brutally cruel, breaking your leg. The pain would be excruciating. Imagine the helplessness, with no one to advocate for you or protect you. Consider the agony of severe pain, unable to move because you're not strong enough. Tears streaming down your face, unsure when help will arrive or if you'll receive any at all. Witnessing brutality, unable to speak for yourself, yet feeling every ounce of pain. The point is to emphasize that while we never want to experience such pain, w...

Imagine you come across a dress online that immediately catches your eye. The next day, you head to the market and buy it without any trouble because it's affordable. Overjoyed, you bring it home and eagerly show it to everyone before trying it on and snapping a selfie. After changing back into your regular clothes, you hang the dress in your wardrobe. A few days later, you wear the dress to an event or a lunch outing, take some photos, and upload them to your social media accounts. The compliments start pouring in, making you feel happy and proud. Afterward, you hang the dress back in your wardrobe, knowing it's safely yours and that no one can take it without your permission. You wear it a couple more times, but eventually, it returns to the wardrobe. As time passes, even the nicest dress can lose its charm, and you might feel the need to buy a new one. The point is, don't let yourself become like that dress in someone's life. Set your own limits and boundaries. Don...

 Never give lame excuses like "Amma Abba nahi manain Gy" after 4 to 5 years of commitment. Because if you think that you are restricted in such a way that you cannot disobey your parents , then why even commit to someone , who cannot be accepted by your parents. Why are you destroying someone's life if you don't have courage to speak for yourself?   Why are you playing with someone's emotions. If you do not have enough strength to fulfill your promises, why are you giving expectations to that person.    You have no idea how it can break someone ; mentally, emotionally and spiritually.   Therefore , please do not ruin someone's life if you are  aware of your family's expectations from you.

 Just wanted to share a personal experience.   Recently, my friends and I were getting ready for lunch, feeling excited and having fun. But then, one of my friends played a sad song. At first, we enjoyed the lyrics, but as we listened more, we started to focus on the words and they took me back to the darkest moments of my life. We all have those moments, right? Where we feel demotivated, disappointed, and sad. After the song, I asked my friend to play it again, and there was a silence in the room. I felt lonely, even surrounded by people. I tried to shake off the feeling, but it lingered, and by the time we went to lunch, the excitement was gone, and I even ended up with a headache. But here's the thing...that moment taught me that it's okay to feel our emotions, even the painful ones. It's okay to acknowledge our struggles and take a moment to process them. And most importantly, it's okay to ask for help when we need it. Let's not forget to be kind to ourselves an...